February 18, 2009

50 Ways to Love Your Lover

Not really, but that title did grab your attention, didn't it?
Actually this post is about just one way to love your lover. Or a friend. Or your kids. Or your parents. Or your nasty little brother....you get the point.

My husband and I have been married nearly 25 years. That's one quarter of a century! And after that many years of marriage it's become very easy for us to take each other for granted. Being married to my husband for that long is like having a very old, comfortable, cozy favorite pair of shoes. (No lovey, if you're reading this, you are not old. Our marriage just feels that comfortable. Honest.)

Anyway-I wanted to do something special for my husband for Valentine's Day, but I couldn't think of anything unique. It also had to be frugal. I could think of thousands of things that cost money, but I didn't want to spend any. Finally, last week I found this blog post and ran with it.

Just in case you don't pop over there, I'll tell you what I did. I cut out over 50 little hearts from scraps of construction paper and scrapbook paper I had laying around. Then on each one I wrote one thing I love or appreciate about my husband. I scattered them all over the house; my husband had to search high and low to find all of them, but he did.

Some of the things I listed were:
-you keep me in chocolate
-you pray with me in the middle of the night when I can't sleep
-you're willing to rearrange furniture again and again and again....
-you listen to me
-you want to grow in your friendship with the Lord
-you encourage my creative efforts
-you never complain about the strange things I cook
-you let me warm my icy feet on you
-you let me take up more than half the bed
-you forgive me when I hurt you
-you have never lost your temper with me
-you watch chick flicks with me, and seem to even enjoy them

You get the idea. I'm glad I took the time to do this. It meant so much to my husband, but it also blessed me. It helped me slow down and think about, and appreciate, what a wonderful, giving, loving, tenderhearted man I'm stuck with.

Like I said before, this would be something you could do, not only on Valentine's Day for your husband, but maybe as a gift for a friend on her birthday. Or your toady little brother's birthday. Or any old day you feel like blessing someone......


  1. I remember my mom's sister doing this for her on her 50th birthday. Since there are five of them in the family, each one wrote 10 things they love about her. My mom cried. I hope your husband enjoyed it as much as my mom did. :)

  2. Great idea! That sort of gift (as well as the time it took) is worth far more than anything money can buy.
    I'll keep this in mind, in my files of memory, for one day if I ever have a "lover to love". ;)

    Now, if only I had a toady little brother to practice on in the meantime. Ha! Maybe I should put that on my blog: "Wanted, dead or alive (preferably at least comatose): Toady little brother substitude."

    I assume you are feeling better, since you are blogging?


  3. Thank you for leaving a comment on my blog and sharing your husbands reaction to this. I'm thankful to know that it blessed him. I read through the archives of your blog, and I really enjoy it! I look forward to visiting often.

  4. This is such a great idea! Yes!!! Thank you for sharing this!

    Awesomeness! :)

  5. What a nice way to make someone feel loved, appreciated, wanted.

  6. Hi Jan. I love this post. What a great idea. We have been married a little over 32 years and I know how important it is to find creative and meaningful ways to express that comfortable love we have grown into together.

    Thanks for visiting Pollywog Creek and leaving a sweet comment. I hope you will come again.


  7. That is a great idea, Judy. I definitely want to try it!

  8. This would be a great exercise to do as a couple. Thanks for sharing!

    Hey- we've been missing you at craft nights... you should come sometime! Forget about crafts... just come and visit w/ us!!


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