Ha! That got your attention, didn't it? Wait!! Don't run off. I just couldn't resist being a bit ornery. I've been feeling mischievous for several days now and didn't want to stop here. This post is actually about strengthening your marriage. Bet you didn't think that from the title, did you?
OK. I'll get serious now.
I'm wondering if you've ever crawled into bed and thought about the person lying next to you, wondering, how on earth did I get stuck with him/her? We have nothing in common.
I did that the other night. I started out feeling pretty annoyed and just a bit trapped. Of course, thought I, we do have some things in common. We share the same house, the same children, the same TV and the same neighborhood. But after that? Hmmmm.
He likes fishing... I do too, IF it's not too sunny nor too cloudy, there are no bugs within a hundred miles of the water, it's not too hot nor too cold, not too windy but not too still, and, I actually. catch. fish. He'll sit out there no matter what and bake, freeze, soak and/or swat just for the fun of it.
His music? I was going to say it's for the birds, but I'm sure they hate it just as much as I do.
His food? Meat and grease. No thank you.
He likes strange reptiles for pets...I won't go there...
Anyway, you get the idea. I couldn't think of even 10 things we do have in common.
So, after a few minutes of this I had a brain storm.
"Mike? Let's play a game!"
"Yes. You don't have to move or anything. Let's just take turns listing things we have in common until we can't think of anymore. It won't take but a minute or two, I'm sure."
Silence from the other side of the bed....
Then I hear: "We both love the mountains."
My turn: "Road trips."
"Camping." (That one was iffy, but I let him have it. The conditions have to be similar to those of fishing.)
"Going to the symphony."
On and on we went. We listed so many things we actually do have in common we fell asleep before we'd finished. The next day it didn't feel like I was stuck, married to a stranger. It felt like I was stuck, married to my friend.